My Dealing with Grief and Loss

Experiencing the loss of someone you care about is very heartbreaking. Be it a death of a loved one, a relationship breakup or moving away to a new place. My mother's younger sister recently passed away this morning. For a long time she suffered from diabetes which lead to kidney failure where she experienced sequences of hemodialysis. In some ways, everyone grieves differently. I try not to grieve for too long. At first, I usually feel numb and have trouble believing what happened. Whenever I go through a hard time, I always try to convince myself that I feel fine. I do believe that it is important to be honest about your feelings but at the same time I think it's unnecessary to sugarcoat it. I try not to let negative emotion take over me, therefore I tend to push it away and convince myself that I'm not even feeling it at all. Sometimes I need to remind myself that it is okay be sad and cry. If I don't cry, it does not necessarily mean that I am not sorry about the loss. I think that people who don't cry may feel the pain just as deep as those who cry.

The Power of Choice

So it has been a while since my last post. Now that I'm back, it is a pleasure for me to start blogging again. This afternoon I had a quick chitchat with a friend on the phone and she insisted that I should Youtube Tony Robbins. So I did and clicked on the first video that showed up on the list. I played the video and it struck me that the guy on the video was the same guy that appeared in the movie Shallow Hal. I told my friend about it but she has never seen the movie. The duration of the video was 46 minutes long and basically Tony described how to deal with challenges or crisis and choosing the right choice. The key to deal with these challenges is our ability to find our inner strength and see if it suits and works for us.

1. See it as it is, not worse than it is.
2. Get to the truth and deal with it.
3. Get a vision and get strong.
4. Get a role model and learn their strategies.
5. Give more than you expect to receive.

To determine whether we're experiencing a certain crisis or challenges we then have to question ourselves:

1. What has been one of the toughest time of our lives that we made through?
2. What pulled us through the situation? Person? Place? Belief?
3. What was life like before the crisis?
4. What did we do to turn around?
5. How is our lives better today because we went through this crisis?

Looking back on all the situations that occurred in the past, all of the above made sense. I concluded that no matter what situation we are in, we should be able to make the right choices and deal with them even if they don't always turn out as we expected them to be. Our lives can be altered just by making the right decision that we assign to our life experiences.